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If you tell people you’re not finding out the gender of your baby, they might think you’re crazy.

It’s become the norm to find out your baby’s gender before giving birth.

And it’s easy to see the reasons why.

You can decorate the nursery, choose a name, and buy adorable outfits for a little boy or girl.

But there are major benefits to keeping your baby’s gender a surprise, too.

I’ve done it both ways.

We kept our firstborn’s gender a surprise but found out with our second that we were having a girl.

I’m here to tell you that contrary to popular belief, not knowing is so much better.

Related: 3 Reasons to keep your baby’s name a secret

10 Reasons for keeping baby’s gender a surprise

Before you decide to find out if you’re having a boy or girl, check out these reasons why it’s worth waiting!

1. Get the baby gear you need

People can’t resist super cute baby outfits. They just can’t.

And if they know your baby’s gender, you can expect to get about 48 frilly dresses or athletic-themed onesies at your shower. (Your baby will outgrow most of them before they ever get worn.)

But if they don’t know if you’re having a boy or girl? You’re a thousand times more likely to actually get the practical, off-the-registry gifts you really need to prepare for bringing home a little one.

2. No need to revamp the nursery

Planners: I know you really want to find out your baby’s sex ahead of time. But if you create a gender neutral nursery, you won’t have to redecorate when you’re ready to have more kids.

Next time around, you’ll feel so chill knowing you have the biggest baby prep task already done.

3. It annoys your mother-in-law

People won’t believe that you really don’t know the sex of your baby, especially your mother-in-law. She’ll try to get you to spill the beans.

Trust me, there’s nothing like the sheer pleasure of irking your mother-in-law for nine months.

(Fair disclosure: She will even the score once the baby is born.)

4. Have fun with silly games

You get to indulge your crazy aunt’s need to play soothsayer. She’ll hang strings over your belly, read your tea leaves, or ask about particular cravings.

The bonus for you? You get to talk ad nauseam about the ins and outs of your pregnancy.

5. No oopsy returns

That’s right folks, occasionally the medical peeps get it wrong.

It could be a tailbone mistaken for a penis or a butt taken as a vulva or the umbilical cord is getting in the way of seeing what’s what.

How certain your ultrasound technician is depends on the baby’s position at the time the image is taken.

It’s fairly accurate, but not 100%.

But if you wait to find out your baby’s gender, there’s no chance of mistakenly creating a Johnny room only to find out you actually have a Jane.

6. It builds excitement

Bringing a new life into this world is the most exciting thing ever and everyone will be thrilled for you no matter what.

But when family and friends don’t know what you’re having, they’re more likely to pack the waiting room to be the first to hear the big news. 

7. There’s zero disappointment

You can say you just want a healthy baby, but admit it: Part of you is secretly yearning for a certain gender. At least right now.

By waiting to find out, you won’t be disappointed if you don’t get the girl or boy your heart was set on. Gender preferences melt away as soon as you see your new baby.

8. Gives your co-workers a boost

You know your co-workers are looking for an excuse to push off whatever boring assignment is at the top of their to-do list. 

So they’ll be eager to create a baby pool about what you’re having, round up bets and open your email announcement to see who won beer money for the weekend.

9. No arguing over baby names

Do you really want to listen to all the reasons why you should name your little girl after your grandmother Helga? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

Not knowing your baby’s gender helps avoid those conversations. We don’t even know if we’re having a girl or a boy yet, grandma.

And even if you have names in mind for a girl and a boy, there are plenty of reasons why you shouldn’t share your baby’s name.

10. It’s one of life’s big moments

The truth is, finding out your baby’s gender in a dark room with a random ultrasound technician is a little deflating.

It’s just not as grandiose as having a baby pulled out you and hearing the doctor say: It’s a…!

I’ve never heard anyone regret waiting to find out their baby’s sex.

And I think that’s because great surprises are few and far between in life, and this is one of the best (if not the best)

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